So, I'm not positive, but there is probably some rule prohibiting sharing a blog post in your own blog. However, I don't care. This was too good not to share! It was so well written. And, don't think I didn't notice a new name for the category most singles are in: not-yet married. Love this! It's so point on. (Link listed below.) If you know me very well at all, then, you know a few things about my feelings toward singleness and how our society views it. Nevertheless, I will share them a little here, just in case.
#1: I can't stand it when married people try to preach to singles or about singleness.
Here's the thing. If you married right out of college, you really don't know what it means to be single. It's just that simple. If you married your high school sweetheart, I'm not even gonna go there. Your clever tweets or sayings don't mean a whole lot because you know nothing about the subject on which you are speaking. It would be like me trying to give my married friends advice on being married. I've never been married. So, on that matter, I'm gonna keep my mouth shut. I really can't give any advice about loving a husband, being a good wife, or raising children. I've never done it.
#2: I can't stand it when people (in general) ask me if I'm dating someone / if I want to get married / if I want to have children.
First of all, if I was dating someone, you'd know it. It would not be a secret. Secondly, just because I'm single, it does not mean I do not want to get married. I do. Most single people I know want to get married. It's not like we're against marriage or have some marriage haters' club. And, as for having children, I want to have children. Most single people I know want to have children. But, as if it's not obvious, I would like to have the husband first and then the children. That's the best order I have found. Furthermore, when certain people ask me one or all of these questions, it's all I can do not to come back with a smart alec comment.
#3: Singles are not the Junior Varsity or some unimportant, no-name sect of people.
I think in our culture there are some huge misconceptions about singles, especially in the "American Christianity" culture. In the church, a single person can truly be made to feel like the Junior Varsity, while the married couples are the Varsity. It's just not true. Plain and simple. There is nothing wrong with single people or singleness. Therefore, we do not enjoy being treated as less than or inferior to married people. Our culture / society has created this problem. I think it has gone on for a long time, and no one knows how to fix it.
I went off on this little tangent simply to share some thoughts. If you're married, I'm happy for you. I've heard it's one of the best decisions a person can ever make. I am in no way bitter toward you or bitter about being single. It is what it is. I'm trusting in God's timing and perfect plan for me. Every person I know is in some form or another in a "different season" in life. I'm in mine, and you're in yours. If you're single and honest, I think you might agree with some of the things I've said. If not, it's cool. We can agree to disagree. But, you should totally read the blog post I mentioned earlier. It's worth your time. Here's the link: Single, Satisfied, and Sent
#1: I can't stand it when married people try to preach to singles or about singleness.
Here's the thing. If you married right out of college, you really don't know what it means to be single. It's just that simple. If you married your high school sweetheart, I'm not even gonna go there. Your clever tweets or sayings don't mean a whole lot because you know nothing about the subject on which you are speaking. It would be like me trying to give my married friends advice on being married. I've never been married. So, on that matter, I'm gonna keep my mouth shut. I really can't give any advice about loving a husband, being a good wife, or raising children. I've never done it.
#2: I can't stand it when people (in general) ask me if I'm dating someone / if I want to get married / if I want to have children.
First of all, if I was dating someone, you'd know it. It would not be a secret. Secondly, just because I'm single, it does not mean I do not want to get married. I do. Most single people I know want to get married. It's not like we're against marriage or have some marriage haters' club. And, as for having children, I want to have children. Most single people I know want to have children. But, as if it's not obvious, I would like to have the husband first and then the children. That's the best order I have found. Furthermore, when certain people ask me one or all of these questions, it's all I can do not to come back with a smart alec comment.
This is what I'm tempted to say...
#3: Singles are not the Junior Varsity or some unimportant, no-name sect of people.
I think in our culture there are some huge misconceptions about singles, especially in the "American Christianity" culture. In the church, a single person can truly be made to feel like the Junior Varsity, while the married couples are the Varsity. It's just not true. Plain and simple. There is nothing wrong with single people or singleness. Therefore, we do not enjoy being treated as less than or inferior to married people. Our culture / society has created this problem. I think it has gone on for a long time, and no one knows how to fix it.
I went off on this little tangent simply to share some thoughts. If you're married, I'm happy for you. I've heard it's one of the best decisions a person can ever make. I am in no way bitter toward you or bitter about being single. It is what it is. I'm trusting in God's timing and perfect plan for me. Every person I know is in some form or another in a "different season" in life. I'm in mine, and you're in yours. If you're single and honest, I think you might agree with some of the things I've said. If not, it's cool. We can agree to disagree. But, you should totally read the blog post I mentioned earlier. It's worth your time. Here's the link: Single, Satisfied, and Sent
